2008 offers us the opportunity to try something new in our relationships. Grief, church difficulties, losses and conflict are not easy relationship issues to deal with. These are just a few of the topics that I have discussed with people recently during the holidays. Below are some common ideas that I frequently mention to people. Take a look and see if one or more of these suggestions would improve you life. Don't let the distraction of "busyness" deter you from making a change.

Here are a few things that many be different to try this year:

• Increase your social support, stay in touch with those you care about.
• Set more boundaries, choose when to say no and when to say yes.
• Make use of your faith.
• Learn to wait and listen as you wait to deepen the meaning in your life.
• Be still or non anxious.
• Consider mentoring someone (there are several official programs in the Rogue Valley). Consider finding a mentor.
• Learn to work through conflict with respect.

Peace and Joy in 2008,

Barbara Massey LMFT

ParkPlace Counseling Center

541-245-9610 ext. 3

Counseling for Relationships in Rogue Valley, Oregon