One of the most common diagrams I show clients is about doubt and couple feelings. It is so common to doubt after a partner makes a change: doubt their ability, doubt it lasting And doubt its sincerity.

If Valentine's was special but you are skeptical that the changes you experienced can last you are not alone. If it was great but now it seems hum-drum again that's normal too.

A way to get a good connection going now is to work it into your routine. Five Minutes a Day is all the time it takes to kiss someone hello in the morning, hug at the door goodbye, greeting them at the door with a quick "how are you?" and offer another hug or kiss at nighttime. Couples who build in these routines often have busy lives but feel more satisfied with their relationships. Try it yourself and get a good change going.

Barbara Massey LMFT