Collaboration in Relationships
Collaboration of any sort is a journey in which two or more people work together toward an intersection of common goals. It is related to the value of mutuality being part of a growing connection together for mutual empowerment contribution to a larger, empowering community. It is the highest level of boundary work as it is being at peace with limitations and being able to serve others. The Serenity Prayer helps us realize what can and can’t be changed in such a complex process. Couples may want to collaborate for a better relationship, for a better separation or divorce and use counseling.
I help clients increase effectiveness during the collaborative journey. Acting as skillfully as possible, focusing on what works, playing by the rules of the agreement and letting go of feelings that hurt and do not work are all needed.
It is not co-dependency to be collaborative although there are some “helping” actions involved. Collaboration is not seeking approval, fear of the other parties’ anger or putting aside your own values. Being aware of the value of collaboration, a collaborator knows the preferred result and is making a choice how they interact.
Barbara Massey LMFT
Posted on Tuesday, July 29, 2008 at 09:06PM
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